11/29/06
The King Is Dead: RWB Jr. 1927- 2006
Hey
It is my very sad duty to inform you that there will be no more
Bill and his Dad stories, unless they're told from memory, cos my
Dad died about six this evening, here at the house.
Took all of us by surprise, including, I'm pretty sure, him. I'd
just gone downstairs to work out and my Mom had gone into the
kitchen to fix his supper, when I hear her hollering, so I go back
upstairs, he's on the couch with his mouth gawped open and his
slitted eyes rolled back in his head- fuck, I hadn't been out of the
room two minutes, he'd been fine when I left- and my Mom's shaking
him and yelling "Wake up, Bit, wake up!". Fuck me running.
Mom: He started making these choking sounds I came in here to
check on him and now I can't get him to wake up.
Bill: Let me see him. Why don't you go in the kitchen and call 911?
I took his hand, couldn't get any grip in response, I peeled one
of his eyelids back, got nothing but white. Then he starts doing
that last gasp thing, taking those final deep, slow breaths.
B: Ma- you really need to go call 911.
I knew there was no point, I just didn't really want her in there
watching. Amazingly, she listened to me and went to call 911, and I
stood there and watched the life go out of my Dad's face. His skin
lost all it's color, going first waxy, and then gray. Of course, my
Mom then has to come back in, tries to start slapping his face and
demanding he "Wake up!" some more.
B: Ma, please, don't smack his face like that.
She looks at me all forlorn.
M: Bill, I think you're Daddy's dying.
B: I think you're right, Ma.
I mean, what do you say to that? She hauls back, like she's gonna
beat him back to life. That's a fucking Bitner for you.
B: No, here, don't . . . just take hs hand
M: What?
B: Just hold his hand, like I'm doing.
I tried to come up with some eloquent parting words, couldn't
think of any, so I told him I loved him, and thanked him for being a
good Dad, and then he died. As deaths go, I don't guess it was all
that bad- it was relatively quick, and he didn't seem to be in any
pain- but I still have to tell you, watching your Dad die right
before your eyes is a moving experience, in a way I'd just as soon
not have been moved, thank you.
At least, thank God, we'd had a decent afternoon together, my
last words to him weren't "You're drivng me out of my mind you evil
old fuck". He's been sleeping a lot in the afternoon lately while my
Mom watched her soaps, we figured his napping was contributing to
his wanting to stay up all night, so I'd started watching TV with
him in the afternoon while my Mom watched her soaps upstairs, I told
him we'd watch whatever he wanted, which turned out to be The A-Team
(a show I never could stand the first time it was on, "Hannibal,
tell that fool to shut up. Shut up fool!") at 2 pm and Bonanza at 3,
and he seemed to enjoy it, and I will always be damn glad I spent
this last afternoon with him.
Am I sad? Fuck yeah, terribly so, but even more I feel kind of
lost, my Dad has been one of the cornerstones of my life, my entire
life, and it feels very strange for him to be gone. He was one of a
damn kind and this world is a lesser place without him, I promise
you. And as much as he's driven me insane this past year, I already
miss his big crazy ass. But a lot of him died with the stroke, he
was miserable with the way he'd been since, hopefully he's not
miserable anymore.
(I GUESS THIS MEANS YOU'RE SHERIFF, NOW).
I guess so.
Got a busy day tomorrow, I'm going to leave you with something,
it's the worst cliche in the damn world and people only trot it out
when something like this nuts their care not asses, but I'm going to
say it anyway, and that's if you care about someone, you need to
treat them every day like it's the last one they'll ever have, cos
I'd be hurting a lot worse right now than I am if my last words to
the crazy old shit that sired me, and did his damn best to bring me
up right, had been mean ones.
RIP, old man. You earned it.
Later
Bill
Raleigh
W. Bitner Jr., 79, of Cross Lanes, passed away Tuesday,
Nov. 28, 2006, at his residence.He was born Nov. 23,
1927, at Martinsburg, and was a son of the late Georgie
Pierce Bitner and Raleigh W. Bitner.
Raleigh was a veteran of World War II, having served
in the 139th Army Air Corps Squadron of the 8th Air
Force. He also served his country in the Korean Conflict
as a member of the U.S. Air Force and was a member of
The Army Air Corps Squadron Alumni Association.
Raleigh was retired from AT&T and was a member of
First Baptist Church, Dunbar, Cross Lanes Lions Club,
where he served as past president, the Telephone
Pioneers, and the Telephone Chorellers and was active in
the Cross Lanes Lions Club Softball Little League.
Surviving are his beloved wife of 52 years, Dorothy
Blair Bitner; son, Raleigh W. “Bill” Bitner of Cross
Lanes; daughters, Lori Bitner Ward and her husband, Tim,
of Gallipolis, Ohio, and Tina Bitner Bragg of
Charleston; grandchildren, Sarah Bitner and Rachel
Bitner of Baltimore, Md., Lindsay, Jeremy, Heather and
Eric Ward, all of Gallipolis, Ohio, and Tommy Bragg of
Huntington.
Funeral services will be 1 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 2, at
Keller Funeral Home, Dunbar, with burial to follow in
Tyler Mountain Memory Gardens.
Friends may call from 6 to 8 p.m. Friday at Keller
Funeral Home, Dunbar.
Raleigh was a loving and devoted husband, father and
grandfather who will be sadly missed by his family and
many friends. |
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