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Sunday, January 01, 2006

 

My First Words
Category: Life

My first words of 2006. We have just come back from a party where we danced and toasted and drank (mine was a latte) and cheered the new year in. I can't say that I had a good time or really enjoyed myself, but at least I made an effort. He will leave tomorrow around noon to stay with his parents and then leave for good on Monday morning. I'm not asking whether we will see each other again before he leaves. I might not be able to handle the answer. I am weak and my spirit is sore.

I will begin seeing things differently this year. I hope to look back a year from now and be a happier person. I hope the New Year's Eve party next year is a better one than tonight and I hope to have something happening on a professional scale with my writing. However, I think that is wishful thinking. But I must keep hope alive for all good things to enter.

So whatever it is you are seeking, whereever it is that you go, whoever you find to love or bond with, may all things grow more dear and sweetly throughout the New Year.

12:41 AM - 16 Comments - 12 Kudos - Add Comment - Edit - Remove

zazen_lover

Happy New Year, beautiful!  My song tonight is yours.


Posted by zazen_lover on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 12:53 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

Happy New Year to you too, Mary. And thank you for the thought and the song. xo-deb

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 2:12 AM
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The Pumpcrop

My dear, dear Deb... My friend.... Please. PLEASE let me come over there and knock this guy around a little and make that.... make this guy cough up a deffinate answer.... I gotta tell ya, I loath this piece of... this guy.

"Beware: history speaks of goals never intended."

Posted by The Pumpcrop on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 12:54 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

Sweet PumpCrop. That will not be necessary as I have put him "out like a light", with a great back rub, and I am now myspacing. So thanks for the thought, dear, but all is settled in for the night. And he's leaving tomorrow. Happy New Year, friend! xo-deb

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 2:14 AM
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Maggie

As I said on the phone just now, keep writing.  One of us will figure out where it is to go, and with alot of blood, sweat and tears - and our heads stuck together like siamese twins (really sucky analogy, but you know what I mean) - you will be going somewhere.with your writing.

Taking the break for whatever reason, is still a good way to go.  You just never know what will happen.  Maybe it needs to end for good - maybe it doesn't.  Only time will tell. 

Lots of love, Deb.  Happy New Year.

Posted by Maggie on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 1:05 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

LOL! Yes, I get the anology. It sounds like a scene out of Scream!

Thank you for your vote of confidence, Maggie. As for taking a break, that is a done deal. As for whether the relationship will continue, seems doubtful. But miracles do happen. But I know what you are saying. I should just be open, remain friends, etc. and yes, I hope I can do that but I will come first this time and if it is too painful, I won't be able to do it. So, we'll see. Love you too, And HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 2:18 AM
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David Leeson

Say goodbye Deb. You have better things to do anyway. You have 365 blogs to write in 2006. :) Love, Bro.

Posted by David Leeson on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 1:09 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

Perfect comment, Bro. Bravo! And I love the holiday pic! Very cool.

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 2:19 AM
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Elaine

I'd feel so much better if he had given you a back rub but, can't always get what we want, eh?...love you, deb.........it's gonna be a great year, with/without Him.    cheers, elaine

Posted by Elaine on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 2:51 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

Yes, I feel it too. It will be a great year for all of us if we chose for it to be. Love you too, Elaine. MU-AH!

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 11:25 AM
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Greg

Deb, I realize you need some space for you, and that is terrific.  As hard or as harsh as it may seem; by the choices you are making right now; you are probably saving his ass. It is very important that he finds his new identity, and not tap into your new identity.  Yours is only about 18 months old.  His has yet to be born. 

I doubt very much that he would do it on purpose.  But he could steal the beautiful you, that you have worked so hard for.  Time... I believe giving you time is the key; and cutting him loose, as painful as it may seem for the both of you, will be for the best.  Especially for him... Big Hugs

Posted by Greg on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 3:36 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

We both need space. I hope he will get the growth that he needs but that is no longer up to me. I have let him go. I will continue to be his friend if that is possible, but I can not be a bandaid any longer. I need to be more than that to someone. First I must work on myself. After he leaves today, I hope I am able be happy for that. I will be thinking of your words as encouragement to my heart. I choose to believe that it is a self-less and courageous act to step away and see him fly on his own. I will be flying too. Thank you so much, Greg. You have such a dear, sweet heart.  

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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Elaine

Bravo

Posted by Elaine on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 10:25 AM
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Lucia

I agree with what Greg said so much I just cannot add to it.  I love the idea he presented about you being 18 months and the beau not even a day old. From the other post where Greg sent his prayers for his healing I feel Greg really does know where he is *at* or should I say not *at* yet. I especially love that he suggests his wish that you do not lose *you*.  I did that one time when I was so close to really having it.  This guy was probably attracted to that...I just was not quite really there enough...I lost it and lost it badly.  I do not want that to happen to anyone.

Posted by Lucia on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 10:11 AM
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Chaotic_Structure

Lucia, this makes a lot of sense to me. Thank you so much for these comments. Wow. You guys are awesome. What an incredible and loving thing to have here on the Internet. I only hope that I do not falter too much and that something truly wonderful will come of this. For each of us and for all of my friends who are doing the same with their own journeys. Many thanks, Lucia. Blessings to you.

Posted by Chaotic_Structure on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 11:30 AM
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Melody

Happy New Year! Hugs and stuff!

Posted by Melody on Sunday, January 01, 2006 at 3:55 PM
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