Posted by: Markonator - Every family's got one,
Deb.
My uncle Dave was was better than everyone.
Then he died.
Just like everyone.
Posted by PumpCrop
Another type of family
here... in the biker community there is always several
who are the baddest, the strongest, the more manly then
anyone else. After a while, you learn to except their
fantasies as part of them. *shrug* Every family had
their "Holier-then-thou" self sufferer.
And
besides, the only bad thing I can think of being in
Maine is it's full of Yankees.
Yep, I guess there comes a
time where it's just easier to nod your head and try to
keep your eyes from glossing over.
1. I like that you said
"lish dish"
2. You're like me, my dad always
makes fun of me because I want to move to
places I've
never been, i.e. Seattle and Chicago. James taylor is a
good reason for maine,
but doesn't Martha Stewart
live there too? I agree with what the canadian guy said
too about
most folks growing towards heat.. only
because sooo much of florida is old people.. just like
on that one sienfeld episode. He nailed it. But once
again I too don't like the heat and gravitate towards
colder places. It feels crisp and neat, and I like
bundling up.
3. this was a good blog anyawys but
sorry if I kept you up too late with the drivel.
Posted by
lukee
Martha Stewart lives there?
I didn't know that. I doubt I'll run into her much at
parties. ;-)
And the reason I like the cold are
mainly the ones you mentioned. Plus a few more.
I
enjoyed the drivel. I drivel all the time. (as she looks
over and says, did you hear that kitty?)
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
I enjoyed the drivel too.
I'm glad we both like drivel. I hope we're talking about
the same kind!
Posted by lukee
Well, Luke, as far as I
know, drivel is drivel. I guess there are all sorts of
drivel but when I use the term I am trying to sum up
with that one word, the myriad of "scrambled egg"
thoughts that bounce around in my head and need to be
"lanced" so they can stream out and be examined for
analysis, comparatives, connection, and if I'm lucky
begin to entertain me and perhaps even clear my head for
a bit. Is that the drivel you mean? LOL!!
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
phew, we're on the same
page
drivel can also be slobber or spit
like a
baby or a caveman, or a dinosaur even.
Posted by lukee
I know exactly where you
are coming from. After the November elections (and my
lack of voting for Bush) the afore mentioned Uncle, I
call "granddaddy", didn't speak to me for 3 months
because I hung up on him. Our conversation was something
like:
G: "Ahh, my little black sheep. Well
Sarah, you know the best man won."
S: "No Granddaddy, he didn't. Frankly I don't care what the family thinks, Bush will never be my President."
G: "What has Austin done to you? You use to be so sweet and kind."
S: "I am still sweet and kind, I just have my own mind and values now." Click.
He will never change. It's
sad really. I love him, but from a distance. Because of
all the things I've heard him say and do (especially to
my mom) I just don't want that kinda person in my life.
He doesn't show you the way a true grandfather should
be; full of love and warmth. I'm just grateful that God
blessed me with a wonderful Grandfather on my dad's side
of the family.
Posted bySarah
Ya know? I really didn't
know about his relationship with his children much until
your mom and I hooked up in the past few years, both
going through divorces. I have been dumbstruck by the
huge difference between him and his brother, my dad. I
am very blessed to have a Dad like mine. If you should
ever want a Granddad on your Mom's side of the family,
he'd adopt you in a heartbeat. My mom too. ((HUGS))
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
Some people don't realize
that it's never too old to change. Change is scary and
it takes a great deal of courage to do something
drastic... like change. Change is
magic.
Peace.
Jen
Posted by Jennzirra
We've had a similar
conversation before. We want to embrace change. Change
is the only constant thing there is to embrace. (I'm
sure there is fault with that comment but it's
late)
Thanks, Jenn.
d:
"...it is less
trouble and more satisfaction to bury two families than
to select and equip a home for one."
- Mark Twain's
Autobiography
Posted by nexxus08
Whoah. Heavy. I'm gonna
have to think about that one. ........... I don't get
it.
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
When it comes to relatives,
everything is relative. Now, of course, I’m speaking
relatively…relative to the observations in your
blog. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have the kinds
of issues you described. Misunderstanding the younger
(and/or older generation) is a sort of genetic
imperative! The progeny are invariably considered
audacious or lacking in the worldliness or respect of
their elders and the same mindset is applied by the
younger’s successive progeny. This kind of exponential
“Dysfunctional Family Circus” stuff is just part of
evolution and should be rationalized thru, not agonized
over. After all, they still love us…even if some of
the warmth and fuzziness has been worn away by age. I
certainly have shared in the kinds of anxieties you
wrote about…my solution has been to insert many, many
miles between myself and the “offenders.” The Roberts’
Inquisition is substantially diluted when I do make the
pilgrimages home. Family is “stuck” with us and we’re
“stuck” with them…even when things get “sticky.”
Thus spake I. “The Gospel According to Ted” now
concludes. Please join us in the Gymnasium for coffee
and cake. We’re indebted to the Ladies Auxiliary for
providing these snacks…after all, they should be at home
questioning the decisions of their relatives. :-)
L,
Josh and Steven's Crazy Uncle Ted
Posted by PoetWarrior
Relatively speaking, I
would relatively compare the laws of relativity to the
relationship of relations.
I guess the point
being made by saying, it is what it is and it's good if
we can see it and it's not good if that's what we are
looking for.
The gospel according to Whothe
Hellknows.
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
Well, well, well! The great
and enjoyable dinner with the family. And to think you
had the privilege of dealing with my dad. Lucky you. But
I must say PoetWarrior was very asute in his view of
this thing called family. It's amazing how much you can
dislike them but still want their approval! Just as my
sister (the psychiatrist and chosen one) said to me, "If
you weren't my sister I wouldn't even like you. You
aren't the kind of person I want to know." Maybe not and
that may be the reason they don't know us. They are
afraid that perhaps those "things" they find
unattractive might just appear in them one day and they
don't want to deal with it. Daddy, in all his lack of
acceptance, is just as intrenched in his ideology as
anyone else, good or bad. How is this lack of acceptance
any different than any prejudice displayed by any bigot?
Let's not let others standards become ours. Once again,
you and Sarah and I might not share all the same views
about everything but we do know one thing, we love each
other and think the world of each other, no matter what.
That may be one legacy we have received from this
hardness.
Love to you,Tep
Posted by aoife_zoe
"It's amazing at how much
you can dislike them and still want their approval"
Touche! and Ouch!
You just described my love hate
relationship with my mom.
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
glory, glory. my texas born
and bred, kick ass mom. she makes your uncle look pretty
tame.
all of our conversations are exactly what
you described. i am constantly bombarding myself with
feelings of guilt and (dare i say it?), shame, cause
when push comes to shove, i can't stand that old
woman.
i'm texas born and bred, as well, but two
different people never walked this earth.
what
scares me the most? someday, in the not too distant
future, that old woman is going to die. what will i do
without her?
Posted by Elaine
Well, my Uncle looked a bit
tamer than he actually was. I didn't share everything
that was said. But I'll take your word on it. A Texas
born and bred kickass mom is definitely a heavyweight
contender.
Thanks for dropping by, Elaine.
Blame it on Rush. Until he
came along dad and his brother were practically
Democrats. Pffft. Well, aside from that "down with
hippies" Up With People stage. Well, okay, aside from
the fact that Nixon is still revered by most folks of
that era in Abilene. Well ... never mind.
Was
the chicken fried good?
Posted by David
Leeson
Actually, Dad and I had
cajun grilled catfish and it was LISH. Lauren's
friends were precious. I especially like the husband.
Mom and I
sat across from him and Mom chimed - Don't
you just think he's darling? (as though he wasn't
sitting right there listening to us) and I said, yes,
absolutely. He's a doll. (young man begins to blush, but
liking the attention) Mom says, So, do you have any
older brothers? And I said, What she means is Is your
Dad available? ;-) And you are ABSOLUTELY right
in saying that the beginning of Rush was the end of our
once happy political debates. I miss the days before
'Gush'.
Posted by Chaotic_Structure
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